Looking for love or connection and coming up empty is never a good feeling. When you feel attraction for someone, sometimes it is based on unhealthy things. What I mean is…say your childhood created some unconscious ideas about what a relationship or partner is supposed to look like or feel like (this happens with everyoneContinue reading “Attachment & Updated Dating Lexicon”
Monthly Archives: October 2021
Sex and Ice Cream
These are two of my favorite things. I crave sex more often than ice cream but there is something very sensual about ice cream…and sometimes you just need to cuddle up with some. Of course, there is the “vanilla” joke…I am definitely a “mix in” girl…and I don’t like just one kind – I likeContinue reading “Sex and Ice Cream”
Beautiful chaos~
I had a really enlightening day. I need to “Kerouac” it out…so hang in there with my stream of consciousness rambling please or move on to better reading if you’d like. I have realized that ever since I really let go of the grief I was carrying for years over the death of my partner,Continue reading “Beautiful chaos~”
Sensory overload
Today I began learning to be an art docent for the erotic arts festival. My head is now swimming with concepts, art, and artists. I definitely have sensory overload at the moment and I have so much studying to do about the artists to be able to answer questions in an effective way…but first maybeContinue reading “Sensory overload”
The one about friends~
Today I am thinking about friendship. There are levels of friendship…from the work peer you would come to the aid of, to someone you have known for a long time and have a shared history with, to someone you would trust with your life. I have once had the privilege of being in love andContinue reading “The one about friends~”
Confused…
I got a text from Poly Paul (again…heavy sigh) who I dated for a short bit in 2018/2019. The text he sent is disturbing me…I’m trying to figure out exactly why. And I am wondering why the Universe keeps encouraging people from my past to reach out…I really only move forward and they are notContinue reading “Confused…”
Trust and Boundaries
Today I am thinking about trust and boundaries. Specifically, self-trust and healthy personal boundaries. I was told by someone once a long time ago that I do not have healthy boundaries and, in many instances, have no boundaries. I believed them. This was partially true at the time, but I realize it became a storyContinue reading “Trust and Boundaries”
Wakeup Call
Time for some serious truth… If a person you are “involved with” takes 14 (daylight, non-work) hours to respond to a text inviting them to do something fun with you 3 weeks down the road, they are saying they are not really wanting to do that thing with you… and they also don’t care aboutContinue reading “Wakeup Call”
Connection, Intimacy and Art
My thoughts today… I think all humans need to feel connection with other people. We find things in common to share with people to feel “connected”. I think we crave – at a soul level – really deep connection, but most people keep things on a pretty superficial level. Intimacy is a level of connection.Continue reading “Connection, Intimacy and Art”
Get out of your own fucking way…
This morning I was still in a bad place…fully disconnected from myself and the world. I got a text from my youngest daughter about coffee creamer and pest control. I replied with “No worries”. She immediately came back with “What’s wrong?” Fuck…she can feel it. We haven’t even seen each other yet today and sheContinue reading “Get out of your own fucking way…”
Issues
I have issues…I know this. I am working on them. Some days are better than others. They are deep and dark…LOL The one that keeps popping up is abandonment. I have this reflex now…push people away before they can leave me (sometimes for real – sometimes just in my head). Then I go really quietContinue reading “Issues”
“GGG”
GGG stands for Good, Giving, and Game. More specifically: good in bed, giving equal time and equal pleasure, and game for anything—within reason. The term was coined by Dan Savage, gay author and sex advice columnist for the Stranger. I saw this “GGG” term in the dating profiles a couple of times, so I have googled itContinue reading ““GGG””
Orgasms
This morning I am thinking about orgasms. It’s kind of a touchy subject (no pun intended) and I suspect most people are kind of uncomfortable talking about it. It almost seems to me that the moments of orgasm are the closest you can get to the energy of the divine (blissful love energy that createsContinue reading “Orgasms”
Today’s little bits…
I am so relaxed and happy today. Feeling completely satisfied…all needs met…blissfully serene, and had the best night’s sleep I’ve had in weeks. Nothing to complain about…so just sharing random thoughts (and in keeping with the title of this blog… just a little bit of everything). This blog is not only a personal therapeutic diary,Continue reading “Today’s little bits…”
Willful submission
Touching… skin to skin – soul to soul. Every cell… every particle… surrendering to you, just to please you. My body knew before my mind. I belong to you. Intoxicating dominance…We have no age but, in this moment, you are my Daddy… safe harbor for all of me…my protector…my supporter… my everything. I feel myselfContinue reading “Willful submission”
Peaceful…but not passive
Yesterday the march for reproductive rights I participated in, was great. The energy was awesome…I left with my whole body tingling from head to toe. While I was there, I realized a few things…first, it was surprising to me to grasp there are generations of people who don’t understand how important it is…particularly those bornContinue reading “Peaceful…but not passive”
No Thank You
I got a text in the middle of the night last night from someone I dated for a minute in 2018. It got me thinking about “attraction” with regard to relationships. I have not responded, and honestly I most likely will not…he texted me a few months ago on my birthday (we have the sameContinue reading “No Thank You”
No Fucks Given
I have been thinking lately about how many of us try to adopt an attitude of “don’t give a fuck-ness”. I have thought that if we can reach a level of not caring what other people think of us, that this is healthy and shows self-esteem. I’m questioning it. (Prepare for stream of consciousness, abstractContinue reading “No Fucks Given”
a little bit of everything... 